Outcome

Dari kecil gue nggak pernah dimanja, kalau mau sesuatu ya harus berusaha sendiri. Kalau orang tua belum bisa ngasih, mereka akan jujur dan ngasih pengertian kaya "Jangan sekarang ya, uangnya belum ada."

Respon gue pun nggak pernah memaksa, karena biasanya yang ditolak memang barang-barang tersier yang lebih ke ingin daripada butuh.

Lagian udah template nggak sih? Anak pertama didikannya pasti harus kuat dan mandiri, karena pada saat itu orang tua masih dalam fase membangun. Apalagi orang tua gue bukan old money, alias harus meurih nyari uang tuh. Nggak ada yang kuliah juga dua-duanya. Jadi bener-bener jauh dari kerja kantoran yang punya career path atau gaji gede.

Then the only way for them to grow is only through businesses. Glad my mom can see the opportunity 15 years ago, that in Sumedang, there is no local baby shop (yet). And I have been a witness, watching through their struggles.

Pernah belanja dan bawa barang berkarung-karung tapi pake DAMRI, kecurian barang, kecurian uang, mulai dari kios yang kecil banget, dan bahkan pas hamil gede harus tetep jaga kios. Sampe sekarang belanja udah pake mobil box sendiri, toko udah gede dan posisi sangat strategis, punya banyak karyawan toko dan orang tua tinggal jaga kasir aja. Their sweat is being paid off. 15 tahun lebih loh, untuk sampe di titik ini dengan banyak faktor dan harus konsisten tuh bener-bener prestasi. I am a proud daughter.

The process up to this point is really slow but steady. They never greedy or ambitious about expanding their businesses, yet they keep following trends and open for innovations. That's second proud-moment for me.

Orang tua gue hati-hati banget kalau urusan ekonomi keluarga. Never tempted sama hal-hal yang menjanjikan big returns without efforts karena menurut mereka, cari uang itu harus usaha, nggak bisa leha-leha terus uang jadi berkali lipat. Their perseverance and diligence is on top tier. That's third proud-moment for me.

So, they are quite shock when their daughter can work from anywhere with only one laptop and can make 'that much' of money. They always commented like, "Kok mau sih kantor kamu mempekerjakan kamu? Darimana sih mereka dapet uangnya?" They always full of doubt but I'm pretty sure they are proud too kok.

Oh by the way, let me elaborate 'that much' further, because this is interestingly funny.

I have this habit and urge to always check my parents bank account, just to see if they need support (pret). And dude... it keep growing and multiplies. I was in shock the last time I checked it, in matter of seconds feeling betrayed kaya "Jir?! Banyak?!" WKWKWK. Kenapa feel betrayed karena jir banyak tapi kok nothing change in our lifestyles.

Tapi langsung mikir saat itu juga, yaelah itu kan uang barang yang diputerin dan dipake untuk bayar hutang supplier yang nggak kalah banyaknya. Besides, yaudah lah ya apa sih yang mau berubah, we are comfortable enough now, no need to downgrade or upgrade, just be grateful and let everything as it is.

That's, when I realized that they have raised their kids right, the outcome is just as they plan to be. We don't become norak and kaget, we just like wow nice information and ngeledek mereka for fun. Forth proud-moment for me. Such an inspiration for my future parenting wkwk

Anyway, balik lagi ke 'that much' case. Jadi, jujur aja, gue saat ini di posisi lumayan nyaman dengan income gue, karena gue kan belum ada tanggungan (adik gue udah kerja, sisa satu masih sekolah tapi masih fully supported by parents), gue tinggal di rumah (rent free), makan disedian (food free). Gaji gue pure buat jajan, nabung, cicilan, charity dan investment aja. And the number is not small for me gitu. But I saw a video on TikTok kurang lebih ada cewek dengan conversation caption gitu, isinya:

Saat gue udah mulai nyaman dengan gaji gue, mama: "WKWK kasian banget."

WKWKWK super relate anjir?! Of course I confront my mom lah?!

"Mama juga gini kan ke aku?! Pas tau gaji aku (censored) pasti dalam hati: HAHAHAHA hah cuma (censored)?!"

Do you know how she respond? She. Just. Laugh.

She said "Ah enggaaaaa HAHAHAHA". Engga sambil ketawa tu gimana konsepnya ya? Wkwk

That laugh is enough to validate my accusation wkwk. I know she was just joking and I do not feel offended or belittled or whatsoever. Instead, this become insider jokes now.

What she doesn't know is it actually motivates me to, at least, reaching her current position. Maybe I still far behind, but I confident I can reach it at some point kok (or even beyond hehe aamiin!). Tapi memang kalau kerja sepertinya tidak mungkin, the only possible way I overcome her standard is through businesses juga.

After that event, every time she curious about my financial planning or bonuses or THR, I always being defensive like, "Iya nanti kalau lancar bonus aku bisa (censored). Hah gede banget ya mam pake apa ya? Ngasih mama nggak usah? Malu mau ngasih mama mah ditolak sama ATM nya dibilang TIDAK LAYAK."

Another laugh as response. "Mama mah dikasih ya seneng, ya nerima, mau berapapun. Dibeliin sendal aja mama seneng."

"Ya Allah tu sendal cuma 150rb... Nangis malu banget."

Honestly though, my bonuses (kalau lancar) will be my biggest earnings in my whole life. But it does not even close to 1% of hers. Senyum aja HEHE.

The way my mom appreciate little things, see everything by their efforts and not numbers is a fifth proud-moment for me. I feel appreciated and motivated to become better in providing and giving to them.

Maybe, their kids have this way-of-thinking not only because their upbringing. But also because they literally implement it in real life and become a good role-model. Like they always put God first for every blessing they received, keep being humble, keep living low-profile and modest life despite what they have now. That's sixth proud-moment for me.

Another outcome that I notice beside humble, modest and low-profile is, all of their kids are very responsible and sincere person loh.

Like my siblings seems so santai, senga and tengil but they take their role seriously. Kuliah lulus tepat waktu, sekolah juga naik kelas. Jujur gue paling kepikiran adik gue yang masih sekolah, dia kan online classes udah hampir 2 tahun, mana sekolah negeri kaya go-no-go gitu ngajar online, mana dianya juga setiap hari kerjaannya main PS4 mulu. Tapi tetep, dia naik kelas dong bahkan rankingnya naik meski masih ranking 4 hahaha

Oh! Almost forgot! I also want to give a shoutout to my brother who just got approached by global company based on Singapore to do full-time-remote-jobs. Even though he seems like did not make it, still, proud sister here. Padahal udah sampe riset gaji di sana berapa, udah ngehalu juga kalau keterima kan dapet gaji Singapore tapi tinggal di Sumedang apa nggak makmur?! Tapi ya belum rejeki wkwkwk

Anyway, really hope my parents can see the outcome of what they have been try to convey to their kids for these past years, and feel proud of themselves. Because what I see is, the outcome is far from failure. The outcome is 100% success.